Welcome to Program Information for Basic Training in
Compassionate Communication Skills Mastery
How to talk honestly and openly about everything and create loving supportive relationships with family, mates, friends and colleagues!
Where in your life will this help you?
Everywhere!
At work, with your clients and colleagues, your home/family life, with friends, in your intimate life, in your sex life, when you are out in the marketplace and even when you’re driving down the freeway!
Great communication results in great relationships, more support, connection, love and productivity! The benefits are endless.
Upgrading your communicate skills leads to:
- More authentic connection with the people in your life
- Deeper and genuine intimacy when you want it
- Clarity of thought when you need it
- Understanding and openheartedness
- Emotional ease and less reactivity
- Psychological harmony, peace and ease
- Effective work conversations and creative problem solving
- Ability to express yourself clearly
- Your life circumstances become more enjoyable and beneficial to your well-being
- More freedom of choice in your life
Compassionate Communication skills enhance every aspect of life because wherever you go, there YOU are! You are in relationship with everyone, and we all need each other to succeed in this world. Why not make it about connection, love, cooperation and mutual success!
How else will you benefit?
- More relaxation, ease, openness and confidence inside yourself and in relationship with others
- More confidence when you listen so that you will be able to understand where others are coming from without judgment, projection or emotional reactivity
- No more awkward silences
- Know how to handle conflict and situations that scare you
- Be able to ask for what you want and hear what others want without getting defensive or uptight
- Know how to talk through differences and disagreements, and turn potential conflict into new and meaningful connection and solutions
- Be truly at peace with yourself and in your circumstances and
- Clean up your relationship issues and problems
What’s involved?
Your presence, your curiosity, your openness, your spirit!
- Eight two-hour meetings once a week over the course of eight weeks
- Three one-hour individual sessions with me
- Eight audio lectures for you to listen to
- Recordings of the class calls
- Downloadable handouts
- Partners to practice with
- New potential friends
Each week in the live class call there will be a chance to explore the principles and tools of Compassionate Communication through short lectures, experiential exercises, and group sharing.
Below is a brief general description of what will be covered. Compassionate Communication is a language that cultivates a compassionate heart and mind towards oneself, others and life in general.
The skills do not exist on a linear continuum like time. Learning this new language is more like a deepening spiral with each new piece adding to the richness of the previous one.
Although I use the term “new language”, I am not referring to new words. I am referring to new concepts, a shift in perspective, and a way of interacting with others and the circumstances of life. It is different from the paradigm of “power over”, “me versus you”, “dog eat dog”, “either/or” and other ways of thinking that promote the use of force, control, or manipulation to get what we want from others.
It is a shift to a paradigm of:
Understanding, co-creation, cooperation, emotional congruency, honesty, connection and love.
Week one – Setting the stage for learning and foundation
In this first week will get connected as a group and set the stage for our individual learning. We will learn the foundation principles of Compassionate Communication and the blueprint toolkit for self-connection and clear communication.
Week two – Emotional intelligence/needs consciousness
We are a complex interplay of sensations, feelings, thoughts, needs, wants, desires and behaviors that all add up to our perception of ourselves, our circumstances and our relationships. These aspects of our perception are often jumbled up in our awareness like an urgent crowd of people running for the last train out of the station! How do we make sense of it all? Week two is an exploration of this. We explore the Compassionate Communication blueprint that illuminates the connection between emotional congruency, needs consciousness, life choices, self-responsibility, releasing judgments and bringing the mind into service of the heart and guts.
Week three – Self-connection
Self-connection is the basis for everything and gives us a root from which to extend out to connect with others. Self-connection creates the foundation for interdependence which is essential for our well-being. Knowing oneself is the first step in being able to share oneself. In this week we will cultivate mindful self-connection, self-empathy, self-love and present-moment authentic self-expression.
Week four – Mindful speaking
Speaking in a way that invites others to actually want to listen to us and gives us the experience that we are heard is crucial in many aspects of our lives, not just successful relationships. Learn how to talk with rather than talk at others. Week four is an exploration of the dimensions of conversation, and how to create connection, understanding, and resolution in relation to getting things done and improving the quality of interpersonal relating.
Week five – Deep listening
Listening is essential to our well-being. Without the ability to listen with an understanding heart and mind and an openness towards what is going on for others and ourselves, our lives often become very stressful. Deep listening teaches us how to listen to what is really happening versus hearing what we want to, what our interpretations are, or not hearing at all! Deep listening gives the gift of being heard to another, while promoting compassion, empathy, connection, relaxation, spaciousness and more possibility.
Weeks six and seven – The interpersonal dimension
Interpersonal communication is what it is all about. The quality of our relationships and how we succeed in our endeavors depends on how well we communicate. In weeks six and seven we put everything together and explore the dimensions of interpersonal relatedness from the perspective of Compassionate Communication, using the tools and principles to have conversations that connect and help us create what we want in our lives.
Week eight – Closure
Closure is an important element in any coming together. Closure is where we get a chance to celebrate and integrate new learning, mourn what we didn’t get, vision for the future and discover what might be next on the journey. Closure is a time to honor, appreciate, acknowledge and give and receive reflection. It is a time to assess what has been received so that in stepping back from the table one feels the satisfaction of the meal!
Does this sound great to you?
The next step is to have a complementary session with me to find out if this is the right fit! Go ahead and fill in the box in the upper right corner of this page and click the yes button! We will then schedule a telephone session.