I recently read an article in the Huffington post on women over fifty becoming invisible to men! Here is my comment…
We all have so many variations on the theme of aging and the man/woman game. No matter how we do it, we all face the injustices of this ageist and sexist society.
Under the man/woman “game” of how we give eachother attention is the simple need for love, connection and the exchange of human energy, which is crucial for our life force. Everyone responds to an open human heart.
Now that I am 61 and loving myself for who I am and not because I am loved by a man, it is easier to be truly open and engaging with everyone in a genuinely authentic emotionally warm way because I am no longer driven by the hormonal “need” for men to like me.
The passasge between 50 and 60 for me was about letting go of my “babeness” and embracing a more soveriegn, centered version of myself. Am I invisible? In certain situations yes. Does it hurt? Sometimes yes! It ususally pushes me to go beyond licking my wounds of aging and finding a way in to connect that feels good to me. Ususally when I open my heart and reach out to connect, someone reaches back and I am no longer invisible!